I just got back from a three day conference in Boston with author and Tapping expert Margaret Lynch and I wanted to share an experience I had, shatter a myth, and leave you with a tip for today.
First, the experience: When I’m at these events, I’m usually asked the question, “Well, what is it that you do?” So when I explain that I work with dreams, I usually get one of three different types of responses:
- The first response is usually, “That’s great! I want to run this dream by you because I’ve been trying to understand what it means and I’m stuck.”
- The second response is, “I don’t dream—at all.”
- And then, the last response is, “Ah, that’s nice, but I usually don’t remember my dreams.”
And, while I love, love, love the people who usually provide me with the first response, this article is really for the people who either give me the second or third response.
So, the second response, the belief that people don’t really dream, is a myth I’m about to shatter. We all dream, every single one of us. We all have anywhere from five to seven dream episodes a night, on average, and the last one usually lasts anywhere between 45 minutes to an hour. So if you’re the type of person who believes that you don’t dream, I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but you are a dreamer.
You just have now been shifted over into the group of people who don’t remember your dreams and so now I want to share a tip with you. If you want to remember more of your dreams, then I’m going to offer to you an exercise I offer to my students and clients. The exercise is this: I want you take out a notepad and pen or pencil and put it by your bedside. And every morning when you wake up, I want you to write down the last thing that was on your mind as you were waking up, because usually nine times out of ten, that material was carried over from a dream.
And that’s all you have to do, nothing more than just writing down whatever it is. Because here’s what happens: the more you engage in that activity, you’re telling your conscious mind it is important, that the material from your dreams, which is your subconscious mind and where all that material lives, is important to you. And know what you’re doing is that you’re actively engaging both aspects of your mind; you’re putting them into agreement and you’re getting these aspects of mind involved in the process of helping you remember more and more. Because what happens is anytime we do something with the intention of creating a new habit or a new pattern, it increases.
But start where you are. If you don’t remember that much, just write down whatever it is you remember. And as you engage in the activity more and more, every single day, you’ll remember more.
So, the myth that you don’t dream at all has been totally shattered—sorry!—you are now a person who just doesn’t remember dreams, but you want to remember more.
Let me know how you got how you are coming along with that. I love to hear from people about the progress they’re making or maybe even help you if you get stuck in some way.
That’s it for now…until the next time, sweet dreams!
Your Dream Decoder,